Motherhood and marriage have been one big adjustment for me, and even though I have been a full-time stay-at-home mom for over 2 and a half years now, I am still trying to wrap my hands all the way around it.
I, of course, understood that when I quit my job I would be taking on a new job–the house and the kids.
And I do very much feel like what I do here is work, and for the most part, I love it, and I am so happy to have this opportunity, but…
I have been known to complain.
My husband and I bought our house a couple of years ago.
It was a buyers market at the time and we got a much bigger house than we would have been able to get in a different market.
I love my house, but there are 4 bathrooms (I mean, yay, 4 bathrooms!…).
It was a big plus when we bought the house, but it doesn’t thrill me now.
4 bathrooms make for a lot of cleaning.
But, I’m not going to complain here.
In fact, I have decided not to complain about this anymore.
I’m done with that.
Instead, I am going to be thoughtful and logical.
I am a do-list maker mostly because I am addicted to that feeling of accomplishment that comes with crossing something off of the list. And, there is no task that it feels better to cross off than getting those bathrooms clean.
Silly, but true. When I am putting off, or avoiding a task like cleaning the bathrooms I feel like I have a monkey on my back and I end up sort of wandering through other tasks, half distracted, not really getting very much done. It is better to just get the bathrooms clean and then move onto other things.
Unfortunately, I am like my mom (or are all moms like this?) I remember as a kid she’d talk about laying awake and thinking about something four hours at night. Dirty bathrooms won’t keep me up all night, but I relax much better when I know that I have done all that was asked of me and that I did it well.
If you’ve read much of this little blog, it’s probably clear that being creative is important to me. But, in order to be creative, I need to be relaxed and happy. A younger version of myself might find this strange, but in order to be happy and relaxed, I need to be working in a clean, organized home. And, the only one that is going to make it (and keep it) clean and organized is me.
I love visitors, and so does my husband. Now that we have young kids, and most of our friends have young kids as well, the only way we can get together is at someone’s house. Going to a restaurant is a nightmare. I love hosting and I never want to be in a situation where I can’t invite people over because I have put off or avoided cleaning the bathrooms.
I rented for a long long time before I got married. As all of my former roommates can attest, I was no clean-freak. Not a slob, but if someone else was going to do the cleaning, I let them. But, things are different now. My husband and I own this home. It is important that we keep it up because chances are, we will be selling it at some point. Also, this is our home, and it’s an extension of us. If we want our lives and family to be well-ordered our house must be too.
I grew up in a clean house and my kids deserve nothing less. Also, although my children are still small I am already molding them through example. I remember watching and then helping, my mom clean the house. And I learned how to clean by watching her and then helping her. I need to do the same thing for my kids.
And, when my husband is happy, I’m happy too. Everything is better when the house and the bathrooms are clean. Even if he doesn’t notice I know that having things clean and picked up takes a bit of the stress off of him and allows us to just enjoy each other and our children in the evenings.
I am a stay-at-home mom and this is what I signed up for. There are days that I hate it and feel like a maid, but I know that even though cleaning the bathrooms, or doing laundry, or scrubbing the kitchen floor isn’t grand earth-shattering work, I know that it is good to work. With every job, there are parts that we like better than others. When I was working as a teacher there were certain things I would put off and put off and yet I knew they had to get done. Because it was my job to do them. It’s very much the same as being a stay-at-home mom.
Mothering is so much more important than any other job that I have ever had…and it is also so much harder! I desperately want to be an amazing mother, and keeping the house clean is part of that. I want to show my children how to work, and teach them to take pride in who they are, where they live, and what we do. What is more, I want them to be joyful and happy with whatever life might hand them–and in order to make them joyful and happy, I must be that way myself. Like I said, cleaning the bathrooms is the work of little people, and I am so happy to be belittled and humbled before the Lord in my work at home.
So, there you have it. No more complaining–just clean bathrooms!
Better stop procrastinating by writing this post…and actually get them clean…
Thanks for being here,
Hey Nancy,
You have such a positive mindset; frankly, I had a hard time dealing with this too when I first started my married life.
Not everyone can get outside help as it is not financially easy. The work becomes easier when you know you have to do it for the best reasons.
Thanks for sharing such a lovely perspective.
I love how you’ve beautifully captured the essence of embracing the daily challenges and triumphs of stay-at-home motherhood, especially when it comes to maintaining a clean and happy home. Your 10 reasons are not just relatable but also deeply insightful, shedding light on the profound significance behind seemingly routine tasks. One additional aspect worth considering is incorporating natural cleaning solutions. They not only contribute to a healthier environment for your family but also add a refreshing touch to your cleaning routine. Kudos for inspiring a positive perspective on the valuable work that goes into making a house a home!
You’ve beautifully articulated the journey of embracing the responsibilities of motherhood and homemaking, especially the often underappreciated task of cleaning bathrooms. It’s refreshing to see someone delve into the deeper meanings and intrinsic rewards behind seemingly mundane tasks. Your 10 reasons are a testament to the love, care, and thoughtfulness you pour into your home and family.
You’ve truly captured the essence of the daily challenges and triumphs of stay-at-home motherhood. The blend of humor and sincerity in sharing your relationship with cleaning, especially those four bathrooms, resonated deeply. Your commitment to finding positive perspectives, especially in tasks that can seem mundane, is inspiring. Emphasizing the importance of taking pride in our responsibilities, whether in the workplace or at home, serves as a wonderful reminder for all
Awesome post! It’s so challenging keeping up with the house! The fact that you are continually re-cleaning it can be a bit overwhelming. Great reminder of what is truly important!
What a great post! I totally agree with you 🙂 We’ve only got two bathrooms. But I love having them clean (and since they are the smallest rooms of the house they’re sometimes the fastest to clean).
I never thought I’d say this but I actually kind of feel like cleaning my bathrooms after reading this! Thanks for the inspiration and motivation.I hope you don’t mind if I share this link on my next food for thought round up.
Ha! It worked! Thanks for being here!
Note: I haven’t actually cleaned them yet. But at least i feel like doing it now. Hopefully by the end of the week. 🙂
Beautiful sharing and very thought provoking, Nancy! Thanks for the compliment on the home you grew up in. Some of my fondest memories are you little girls washing out the toilet with a rag! You all loved it for some strange reason, and it must have been watching mom do it made it intriguing. I love your new leaf of sharing some of these more sensitive yet “real” topics. You truly are modeling a humble approach to LIFE/LOVE/LIGHT! Thanks for this! Jesus, we trust in YOU. Bless-bless, mom