Most of my Lenten resolutions fail–both miserably and quickly.
I have all of the excuses down and ready to use–we are moving, I’m pregnant, I’ve had a rough day with the kids…
And before we are 2 steps into Lent I’m hiding out in the pantry cramming chocolate down my throat while the kids watch Netflix.
My failures are largely due to setting poor Lenten resolutions.
I delude myself into thinking that miraculously on Ash Wednesday the kids will cut the TV habit, I will stop consuming sweets, and my husband and I will easily settle into a life of quiet time spent in prayer, instead of on Facebook.
And this might happen for a few days…a week.
But we quickly conclude that we bit off more than we can chew–or we made these resolutions for the wrong reasons: to lose weight, to correct parenting fails, to have more time to get other things done.
So, I’m trying to dial it back a bit this year.
We still have a couple of days before Lent is upon us and I’ve been brainstorming.
I want this Lent to be fruitful and I want to develop in ways that are key to me living out my vocation as a mother and a wife.
So here is what I’ve come up with.
I have no intention of making all 25 of these resolutions, but I do plan on making one in each category.
They aren’t huge resolutions, but small ones that I pray I will be able to keep going after Easter.
Developing a Servant’s Heart
Motherhood is servanthood.
Oh my is that ever true!
Like all mothers, my needs come last and I spent my day serving one person after another, and often times feel bitter that I never get to do what I want to do!
I don’t need to do more service, but I do need to do it with more of a servant’s heart.
I want to see the beauty in the service and rejoice through this work.
- Refrain from saying “in a minute”. Help or play now.
- No computer or phone (besides emergencies) except between 2 and 3pm or after the kids are in bed.
- Make beds daily, clean bathrooms weekly
- Stop Complaining.
- Sing more songs with the kids, especially as we work.
Becoming a Patient Teacher
I can so easily get caught up in whirlwinds each day.
I want to be more deliberate about stopping and teaching my kids.
I want to teach them household chores, the ABCs, the faith, and general good behavior.
I need to work on the patience part, big time, and organize my day with the kids better.
- 1 Lenten Project with the kids each week. This year we also plan to do this JESUS TREE activity with the kids each night.
- Set Lenten Goals with Kids and Review them daily.
- Consistent discipline
- Teach Kids 1 Household Chore a Week
- Read to kids daily.
Creating a Faithful Home
I work to create a faithful home, but often in a haphazard way.
I decorate for Lent halfway through. We pray each night but do all sorts of different things.
We talk about Jesus all the time but don’t regularly make it to week-day masses.
This Lent I want to pick one resolution and really install that as a tradition in the life of my family.
- Decorate for Lent
- Lead a Lenten Song with family before evening meal
- Take kids to daily mass once a week
- Learn about 1 saint each week, in an organized, meaningful fashion.
- Say a decade of the rosary as a family each night. (this makes it much easier)
Striving to be a Charitable Wife
I’m a good wife, a faithful wife…I do need to work on being more charitable though.
I love my husband so much, but I can get bitter and jealous.
I’m not sure how to totally correct this part of my personality, but I know when I focus more on his needs than on my own, he in turn focuses more on me…and our love blooms.
So, here are a few ways I can do that in a small way each day this Lent.
- Try one new recipe a week
- Increase frequency of Marital Intimacy
- Refrain from mentally trashing husband–completely
- Ask my husband how his day was before launching into complaining about mine.
- Do something sweet and small for my husband each day.
Growing as a Woman of Faith
Growing as a woman of faith is the absolute cornerstone of my Lenten journey–and all of my other resolutions rely on this one.
I need to make space for prayer to be more charitable, a better servant, a teacher, and to create a faith-filled home.
- Commit to Meditating on a Bible Verse each day (I am doing this study)
- Attend daily mass once a week
- Receive the sacrament of Reconciliation twice before Easter
- Refrain from profanity (verbal and mental)
- Foster the a friendship with another Catholic Mom in Kansas.
And there they are, 25 resolutions for mothers and wives.
I hope you found something thought-provoking here.
I’m not going to announce what I will be adopting for my 5 resolutions…just because I am actually a bit of a private person, which I know is odd since I blog.
Anyway, all the best with your Lenten plans. May God bless you and your family this season!