Because My Worth is not Based on my Countertops

  1. Your post is truly relatable and heartfelt. It takes a lot of courage to share your feelings and experiences with others, and your words have touched many. Your honesty and vulnerability are admirable, and it’s refreshing to read something that isn’t just a polished, picture-perfect account of life. It’s true that we often get caught up in materialism and the desire for the perfect home, but you remind us that there are more important things in life, like love, family, and happiness. You’re right, there is nothing that entitles us to a perfect home, and we should be grateful for what we have.

  2. Martha says:

    Great post! I agree, HGTV, Pinterest, etc., have given people an unreasonable set of expectations. I even notice it in TV shows and commercials these days; every character’s home is somehow high end/expensive, as though that’s the norm. Watch for it and you’ll see what I mean. But, you’re also correct that it’s up to us to notice and control how we deal with this. We no longer have cable, but I also made it a point not long ago to watch little/no HGTV on their app, for this very reason. I like Fixer Upper because they seem more down to earth, but that’s about it. Like many other things in popular culture, it is a matter of gradualism; slowly, it starts to infest your mind and soul, without you realizing it. After noticing I was finding all of these “problems” with our home, I realized allowing myself to be swayed by our culture of materialism was making me ungrateful for what I had. It kept my focus in the wrong places in life–the superficial–rather than helping others, which always feels a million times better than this feeling of constant material inadequacy (which as you point out is totally absurd for us to really be feeling if we are among the solid middle or upper middle class America). A home truly is what we make of it, and I am now starting to think about how to replicate those experiences I’ve had in my own past that made me feel “at home”–safety, security, warmth of love and joy of family and friendship–in our home for my family, knowing that is what is lasting and true. Thank you for providing further inspiration!

    • So well said. I completely agree-like many of the sins I get sucked into it happens gradually. At first these luxuries look like what they are–luxuries. But after you see them so many times they become common place and I start to feel bad that I don’t have them. It really messes with you!

      All the best with this battle sister! I can’t imagine how much worse it is going to be for our children. sheesh!

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