Catholic Wives, A Message to You.

Ladies, I have been thinking about you a lot lately. Thinking about what you need, what you want, what you think, and what you are.

And by you, of course, I mean us.

What do we as Catholic Wives need to be better wives?

This question has been boiling inside of me for some time now and finally, this winter, I decided to just start trying to answer it.

You see, for the longest time, I thought, “well, I’d like to help other Catholic Wives… But who am I to talk about marriage?  I’m just a little old, imperfect Nancy…”

But this winter I finally got fed up and decided to just do something.  

So, as I tend to do, I plunged in headfirst and buried myself in everything Catholic and Marriage.

I read a lot.  Learned a lot.  And I prayed a lot.

As a result of that study, my own marriage has improved SO MUCH. And I’ve come to believe a couple of things about Catholic Marriage.

Here they are:

• I believe that one of the best things we can do is work on our marriages.

Working on marriage will benefit your husbands, your children, you, and your relationship with God. And it doesn’t stop there!  The ripples of your improved marriage will affect the entire world.

It’s that big!

I get that you are busy and stretched too thin already.

And you might not have time to think about your marriage when so many other things are demanding your time and energy.  

But your marriage is your vocation.  And, as a sacrament, marriage is part of the very fabric of who and what you are.

Perhaps it is time we stop ignoring the issues in our marriage and actually try to address them and heal them.  

Perhaps it is time to draw strength from the sacrament God created. To make us holy and strong enough to bear the burden of life.

• I believe that women need marital information that is geared specifically for women and vetted through a group of catholic women.

Months of digging through marriage research and thought have revealed to me that much of what is out there is written by men, and comes from a male perspective.  

And while we love and respect men…they are men.  

They experience love and marriage and parenthood and SEX in a completely different way than women.

And, although I adore him, JPII was also a man. And some of what he says is influenced by his gender.  

It is 100% true, but not quite 100% feminine. What he left is us a gift we need to USE, not just accept.

Therefore, it is important that women get together and talk about these things–even the things that we might feel a little shy about actually putting into words.  

Like sex.  

And to talk about these things we need a safe place where we trust that all those involved are also women who are committed to marriage and the truth of the Catholic Church.

• I believe that we can improve our marriages.

Perhaps you have real wounds and issues in your marriage.  

God can heal those things, no matter what they might be and you can find a way back to your spouse.  You can.

Perhaps you are generally happy in your marriage and don’t mind just plugging along.  

God is calling you to more, calling you to holiness and a deeper, more meaningful bond with your husband.  

No matter where you are right now, there is more grace you can reap from the sacrament of marriage.

Perhaps you are so consumed with just surviving life at the moment that you aren’t even sure where your marital relationship is.  

Even amid all of that, there is a way to connect with your husband and get back to being husband and wife.  

There are no tricks or hacks, just love, and awareness of what each person needs in a marriage and the way God has created us to love.

These are simple beliefs, but they have the power to change everything.

So the question is, this.  How can we start working on our marriage?

Well, there are lots of options, but the easiest one that you can do RIGHT NOW joins the 7-day challenge to love your husband.

This is a simple EMAIL-BASED challenge that will give you one little idea each day–little ideas that will help you understand and love your husband better.

Over 3,000 Catholic Women have taken the challenge and every day I hear about small but important victories in their marriages.

So, join them, and together, let’s make your marriage more holy and more life-giving!

Head here to sign up!: https://www.catholicsprouts.com/Love-Your-Husband-Challenge

See you inside the challenge!

Nancy